Yes, the BNF issue was actually mentioned outright in the "why we have this policy" paragraph. I suppose, because of the fandom, that I just don't see it as much of an issue; for that matter I was a little surprised that someone(s) felt there was enough of an active fandom to merit a kinkmeme!

I may also be affected by the fact that the only kinkmemes I have been extensively involved in (except the smallish one where I actually wrote something) have been for very large, relatively new fandoms; so maybe they just overpowered the sort of cliqueishness stuff by sheer numbers? Because I really don't remember running into that sort of spite and fawning, in them... Maybe that leads me to downplay the potential for meme-destroying wank.

best way to handle it, really, to be anonymous on the meme IF AT ALL POSSIBLE

I dunno -- that still falls into Do Not Want territory for me. *shrugs* Although it does at least touch on some of what irked me most about the meme rules, which (as far as I could puzzle out) did explicitly forbid linking to previously written works where the author was identified, but -- upon rereading -- it looks like you are allowed to drop a link to a kinkmeme-written work that was subsequently posted elsewhere for archiving, so that makes me a bit happier...